Somedays you will find yourself surrounded by "friends." Yet still feel lonely.
There are times when you'll go to bed feeling misunderstood, by everyone. Feeling as if you don't belong. With the hope that someday you'll find someone who understands you. Without judgment, and with complete openness.
But the truth is that where you are right now is where you belong. You might not believe it now, but you'll understand later. Stories and biographies of heroes, leaders, and legends share how they too, once felt like they didn't belong. They too had to overcome internal challenges.
When you feel like you don't belong, it usually has to do more with how you think others will judge you, rather than how they will actually judge you. You become anxious because if you show the real you, they might not accept you. But what if they do?
1. Find out what makes you feel this way.
Why do you feel like you don't belong? Is it your friends or your family? If you feel like you don't belong, it's because you're not behaving as you wish you would. You feel as if time is wasted. You're missing opportunities because you don't want to risk making others uncomfortable.
You feel like you have to fit into the way those around you already see you. But why?
2. Realize you are not alone.
Look around at the people you coexist with. They also have fears, secrets, hidden desires. They also feel like they'll be judged. Perhaps judged by you.
They are also afraid to speak up, to bring up sensitive topics.
3. Open Up.
When you open up, you might make others uncomfortable. They will have to look at you through new lenses. They will either support you or not.
The hardest challenge you have to overcome is accepting that others might not accept you. If they accept you, good. If not, it's their loss. Might be your loss too, but you'll get over it.
In the long run, feeling like you don't belong helps you empathize with others whom might be feeling the same. It allows you to be someone they can open up to.