Sometimes you feel stuck, caged in, unable to go out and explore. As if your life is going in circles; you repeat the same routine over and over, and end up back where you started.
You can't wait for time to go by, for the boring moment to end. Not realizing that your time on earth is limited, and you're trying to rush it.
You can entertain yourself. By changing the way you think, how you behave, and what you do. You can turn the most boring activities into pure happiness.
Look back at the last time you found yourself in front of a camera. Or how about the time your parents were trying to get a family picture and unsuccessfully forced a smile out of you. Tough times like those require you to have control over your emotions.
Even when not standing in front of a camera, controlling your emotions and carrying a pleasant smile makes you look good, more attractive, and friendlier; It's also fun.
I'ts fun to realize that life's not all roses and rainbows, there's also thorns and thunderstorms. As with life, you should create moments of pleasure as well as moments of agony. Control your emotions as if you were on the playground, watch them swing up and down.
How do you control your emotions? - In a nutshell: through imagination, body language, and behaviors.
A good technique, and something I use, is to imagine the best case scenarios vs worst case scenarios. Think of a cat; who owns a magical horse. Its a bright and sunny day, blue skies. The cat takes his horse for a ride; flying through the sky. But the cat falls off his horse; hitting an airplane head on. The passengers get scared; the plane is falling. But then they realize; it's just some pixie dust, that caused a little turbulence.
You can also control your posture and body language.
"By intentionally altering our posture we can drive internal hormonal changes." - John Neffinger & Matthew Kohut, Compelling People, page 82.
"A recent study found that deliberately walking like a happy person can lift one’s spirits. And adopting the gait of a depressed person can bring on sadness." - Sumathi Reddy, Walk This Way: Acting Happy Can Make It So
Here are 11 Happiness Triggers You Can Use Right Now.
If you look at a sad people, they avoid eye contact, especially by looking down towards the ground; They cringe, and subconsciously restrain their arms; seemingly unable to defy the weight of gravity. Happy people, on the other hand, express arm movements and gestures which reach out and away from their body; They raise their torso and upper body with shoulders extending outwards; They use gravity-defying gestures such as jumping, running, and smiling. (Sources: "What Every Body Is Saying" - By Joe Navarro, -- "Compelling People" - By John Neffinger & Matthew Kohut -- and personal experience.)
Instead of jumping because you feel like it, jump so that you feel like it. :)
Another way to entertain yourself is to Observe and Listen. - In other words, stare and eavesdrop.
People say, do, and wear interesting things. Take a look at the way people dress, the way they behave, the things they say. Question their choices, their habits. Watch out for patterns and stereotypes. Notice the differences; the differences between a sad kid and a happy kid, a stressed mother or a struggling father, a lustful person or a happy couple.
Notice the types of challenges these people face, listen to their complaints. Is it too hot or too cold? What do they wish for it to be?
Also listen to their advice. You'd be surprised but you may eavesdrop and gain some good advice.
The hardest of all, but probably most effective way to entertain yourself is to socialize (with strangers).
Use risk-free social behaviors: Such as waving, smiling, high-fiving, etc. People will find your friendly action weird, perhaps awkward, for a few seconds. But once they realize you're just trying to be friendly, they smile and you feel like you've made their day. The worst that can happen; the person thinks you're weird and ignores you.
Remember: "Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." - Bernard M. Baruch
Yes, it's daunting to interact with someone you've never met before. So here's a few tips:
When you have nothing else to do, contemplate life. Look off into space, tilt your head and take a deep breath. Think about pretty things.
Zone out for a bit and visit your inner mind. Engage in self-talk. Ask big bold questions about your life. What have been your past successes? Have you tried anything new today? Is today just like any other day, or has it been worthwhile? How do you see your future?