You are sitting at a party, your friends are calling you over to go dance. But you are not in the mood, you are shy, you are full of excuses.
Yes, everyone knows that you don't want to dance. Deep in your gut you feel like you don't want to dance. But because at parties the people having the best time are the people out on the dance floor, your only wish in that situation is that you were the type of person who would get up and dance.
You wish you were the person who could withstand the weird looks. The awkward feelings. That feeling when you try to be someone you are not.
But if you can embrace the feeling. If you can withstand the pressure. If you want to be the type of person who gets up and dances, here is your guide:
Simple steps to get you dancing even if you are "not in the mood."
1. Stand up and bend your knees. (Right Now. Stand up and do it Right Now!)
Keep them bent about 80% of the time. Yes it feels weird, embrace the feeling and go to the next step.
2. Bend your elbows.
Keep them bent about 80% of the time. And yes, you look like a koala, embrace the feeling and continue to next step.
3. Start bouncing. (Rhythmically)
If there's music, bounce to a beat of the song. Just don't stress too much about being perfectly in sync with the music.
4. Use biceps, shoulders, or elbows to lead your upper body.
Stretch them away from your body and towards wherever you want to move. Then let your body follow your leading body part.
Doing this communicates to your body and to the people around you what your next move will be. It allows your body and everyone around you dancing in sync with the music.
5. Use your thighs or knees to lead your steps.
When walking or moving across the dance floor, lean your leading body part towards where you want to go and let the rest of your body follow.
Practice in front of a mirror.
Seriously, practice until you feel like you've got it.
Social Dancing Tip: Let your arms act as doors.
If you want to block people from dancing with you, use your arms to cover the area directly in front of your chest area. (Think of your arms as a bird's wings, if you don't want someone to dance with you, close your wings as a bird would when standing still.)
To invite people to dance with you, dance with your arms open and puff your chest out. (When you do want someone to dance with you, open your wings as if you were about to take off.)
Sure, you might act like a bird, a koala, or some freaky squirrel. But trust me, it's not weird when everyone else is also doing it. What does seem odd is the person on the sidelines who's "just not in the mood."
Dance on my friends.
Radiate positive energy out from within.
Inspiring those around you to join and help you on your journey to success.