Experiment with your appearance.
Don’t shave for a week, or a month. Let your hair get messy. Do some dirty yard work and walk into a supermarket. Go dumpster diving and walk into a supermarket. Pay attention to how people treat you, how people look at you. Then dress to impress. Get a nice shave. Fix up your hair. Brush your teeth and your tongue, and floss. Pay attention to how people treat you.
You are sitting at a party, your friends are calling you over to go dance. But you are not in the mood, you are shy, you are full of excuses.
Yes, everyone knows that you don't want to dance. Deep in your gut you feel like you don't want to dance. But because at parties the people having the best time are the people out on the dance floor, your only wish in that situation is that you were the type of person who would get up and dance.
You wish you were the person who could withstand the weird looks. The awkward feelings. That feeling when you try to be someone you are not.
But if you can embrace the feeling. If you can withstand the pressure. If you want to be the type of person who gets up and dances, here is your guide:
You are looking at the mirror, ready to go out. But are you dressed good enough?
In your home you can be yourself, you can wear anything from comfy pajamas to fancy outfits. But out in the real world people will judge you. They will notice your ways of dressing.
Sometimes we leave the house without considering the 3 most important aspects of our style.
Before I show you the 3 most important aspects of style, here is a valuable quote from the book "Compelling People" - By John Neffinger & Matthew Kohut
Clothing can carry with it powerful associations about who we are, not only for others but for ourselves as well, to the point that the clothes we wear affect how our brains work. Like a superhero's costume, the right clothes make us feel like we are ready to take on whatever we are facing. - John Neffinger & Matthew Kohut
A confidence retreat helps you regain a positive state of mind. By re-framing your situation to create a positive outlook. Knowing when to take a confidence retreat is key to stop negative spirals and prevent further damage to your personal well being.
We are all social creatures, whether you are an extrovert or introvert. But from time to time, it gets exhausting. We stop performing as well as our best selves can. When you notice this, you know it's time for a confidence retreat.
Just like when a basketball player retreats alone to practice his shots between each significant game. Or how the writer needs time away from his first draft to start editing it effectively. You also need a confidence retreat between the significant moments in your life.
Here are some situations in where you would need to take a confidence retreat: