I'm the professional quiet guy sitting in the back corner avoiding all eye contact with absolutely everyone. Completely unapproachable, so much that people get uncomfortable just by looking at me. Although I've trained myself to become outgoing when it's convenient. I had no clue about social dynamics when I was younger.
I'll show you a few ways to get shy / introverts / quiet ones / or whatever else you want to call us, to speak.
All of us have past traumas that haunt us for years. For some people, it affects us socially and emotionally.
Sitting on the front porch of a cabin, atop a mountain full of trees. You can hear steak and ribs cooking on the charcoal grill. There's occasional chirp of a nearby bird around the few neighboring cabins. And through the trees, out on the horizon, you'd see mountains. These were the Great Smoky Mountains, and this was a family vacation.
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We as humans are very good at recognizing patterns. We know that every time we miss out on an opportunity only because we were too afraid to reach for it, we end up drowning in regret
But fear is useful in our everyday lives. You can re-frame your fear. There are ways that you can turn that fear into empowering surges of courage.
Some days I feel like I'm not good enough. A weird feeling, a familiar feeling. It's a feeling which surfaces from time to time.
Yet those around me see a greater potential in me. They nudge me. Entice me. But I remain. Unsure. Secretly anxious.
Regardless, the world keeps spinning. The days come where I am certain. Where my ideas match my reality. Blurs come into focus.
But your reality is your own perception of it. Where no judgement is just, simply because it's coming from your one and only point of view. How you feel about your relationships depends more on what you think the other person thinks/feels. Rather than what either of you actually thinks/feels.
Times will come where you will feel regret, thinking you've made a bad impression. You might be thinking to yourself, "Shoot, I should have done so and so, they probably think I'm not good enough." or "crap, why did I have to say that, they must think I'm an idiot"
Even if the other person thinks highly of you, negative thoughts may still creep in from your attic of insecurities.
The opposite is also true. Sometimes someone might think badly of you, yet egotistic thoughts boast through your mind. You think you are the bomb diggity, when, in reality, everyone abhors your presence.
When you're oblivious to the other persons' expressions, you miss out on reality from their point of view. You get caught up in your own traps of thought. You wind up, unwillingly, feeling overly pessimistic or overly optimistic.