I was working at a fundraising event. When out of nowhere, a ladybug came. The ladybug landed on my then manager, and friend. And her face lit up. For a moment, she was the most excited, joyful woman in the world.
"Ladybugs bring good luck!" She had said.
Until that moment I had no idea how a little insect could have such a profound effect on a person. As her face lit up, you could feel the optimism, the joy, the wonder.
If you want to build confidence quickly, you may want to read: 5 Ways To Build Self-Confidence Now. Although, chances are that those tips might not actually work for you, and if they do, your confidence might only last mere minutes.
The best way I’ve found out to gain confidence is when people treat you as a confident person. When others believe you are confident, you’ll believe it too. But for people to believe that you’re a confident person, they must see your confidence.
The problem now becomes that you must show confidence even though you don’t have any. It’s as if you must act tough when you’re at your weakest.
"A good life emerges not from planning it out, but through training ourselves to respond well to small moments."
Some days I say mean things to lovely people. I hate myself for it. I worry and regret it. I feel a need to redeem myself. But what has been done cannot be undone.
It's feeling bad. Not just because you've perhaps hurt, or bothered someone. But because you've lost your own trust to do good. To be good. You've failed to follow your own advice and to live up to your own values. And you feel a need to redeem yourself, to yourself: that you're capable of being who you really want to be.
So you go for a drive. You go to nature. You walk and share a smile with those just passing by. You explore the same places you've normally gone to, but this time, all by yourself.
You start doing exactly what you knew you should've been doing.
You rest, looking over the horizon, bathing in sunshine, listening as the breeze sings against mangroves and waves of the sea.
You return to society and everything is the same. Everyone is the same. Except you. You feel slightly different. You feel changed. Motivated. Redeemed.