When you have no time to self-talk. When you have no time to retreat. When you are out and about. You can still rely on happiness triggers.
Just like the name suggests, happiness triggers are behaviors which trigger happiness. Some of these behaviors are natural, others are conditioned.
When you are walking in public, or in a face to face conversation, small actions can be used to trigger your state of happiness.
Here are a list of triggers which help build the different qualities of a happy person. From most subtle to most outstanding:
1. Tap yourself or an object.
Tapping gives you a sense of connection to the physical world. It helps you come back to reality if you are lost in your mind.
2. Wiggle your thumb.
I't playful and private. You don't bother those around you and you can imagine a smiling face on your thumb as it nods back and forth.
3. Snap Your Finger.
This can be silent or loud, depending on how hard you snap. You can lightly slide your fingers without making a sound and still feel the snap.
It stimulates many of the muscles around your face and those involved with breathing. Acting as a behavior which sets your muscles to either relaxed or aroused levels depending on your task at hand.
5. Raise your hand.
It makes you feel good, especially in social settings. Raise your hands above your head and you might get a surge of attention. It might feel weird or awkward at first. But if you embrace it and find comfort in doing so, it projects your confidence to those around you.
We do it to celebrate. Throughout your whole life, clapping is associated with happiness and celebration. When you do it you feel good. Others might be puzzled by your needless clap, but hey, you are alive and life is good.
7. Have your hands around your head.
Especially to fix or play with your hair. (If you are bald, try scratching your head?) Insecure people are unable to do this without lowering their head, so keep your head high and have your hands reach up to it.
8. Pound your chest.
Gorillas do it to show and feel dominance. So it must work with humans too.
9. Raise your fist at 45° angle.
Similar to raising your hands above your head, but closed fists show power. Winners do it as they cross the finish line or win a match. It's what we do when we feel powerful and competent.
It gets all the muscles in your body involved, your heart rate rises, and you become more alert. Jumping is a happiness sign.
11. Do acrobatics.
If you are trained, do your thing. If not, stick to cartwheels. Lots of people around you will notice your act. Also just like jumping, doing acrobatics for no reason is a happiness sign.
You can choose to play with these actions and behaviors, test them. See which ones you are most comfortable doing vs. which ones are most effective.