I hated reading as a kid. In fact, I still hate reading today. Reading distracts me from doing more important activities. Activities such as exercising, exploring, creating art, etc.
But to love books you don't have to enjoy reading. Books are like friends who give you advice when you need it. They're like movies which entertain you when you're bored. Books are a collection of someone else's thoughts.
So, how do you fall in love with a book without reading it from cover to cover? - Here's how:
Self-Improvement programs are great. Except, there’s not one self-improvement program that will force you to improve. It's like hiring a chef who doesn't cook. Or buying a knife that doesn't cut.
Most people come upon the Self-Improvement community once they find a problem about themselves which they don't know how to fix. Perhaps it's something which their parents forgot to teach them, or even something which their parents still struggle with.
Imagine when someone calls your attention and you finally surrender everything - just to pay attention.
When you’re listening to someone, truly listening, you block out all other distractions and they become your everything. Your full body language should portray this.
Usually, if someone is speaking to you or to a group of people, their goal is to have an emotional impact on you, or for you to understand their emotions.
I hope this helped, I also had to take conscious control of my behaviors in order to boost my confidence and develop better social habits. I teach exactly how I did that though a course on Developing Confidence From Within.
Good life to you.
We all have plenty of time in our lives. What we lack is courage. A caveman also had plenty of time to hunt for food, but what set him apart from the others was whether he had the courage to hunt or not. In our society, we lack courage. The courage to take many quick small risks, and to take a few life changing risks.
Any change in your life counts as a risk. Whether it’d be a change in what you ate this morning for breakfast, or whether you quit your job today or not. We all get the butterflies and feelings of inadequacy.
Let’s say you are standing before a deep dark cave. Would you walk in? You may not know what’s inside, whether it’ll hurt you or not. But would you dare walk in?
I was driving through the streets of Downtown Tampa, Florida. At a redlight the car comes to a stops, I look to my left. Racing. Jumping. Smiling. Swerving. They are a group of rollerbladers. And they're picking people up to join them, on their pursuit for happiness.
Not long after, I found myself buying a pair of rollerblades.
I'm the professional quiet guy sitting in the back corner avoiding all eye contact with absolutely everyone. Completely unapproachable, so much that people get uncomfortable just by looking at me. Although I've trained myself to become outgoing when it's convenient. I had no clue about social dynamics when I was younger.
I'll show you a few ways to get shy / introverts / quiet ones / or whatever else you want to call us, to speak.
All of us have past traumas that haunt us for years. For some people, it affects us socially and emotionally.
Sitting on the front porch of a cabin, atop a mountain full of trees. You can hear steak and ribs cooking on the charcoal grill. There's occasional chirp of a nearby bird around the few neighboring cabins. And through the trees, out on the horizon, you'd see mountains. These were the Great Smoky Mountains, and this was a family vacation.
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We as humans are very good at recognizing patterns. We know that every time we miss out on an opportunity only because we were too afraid to reach for it, we end up drowning in regret
But fear is useful in our everyday lives. You can re-frame your fear. There are ways that you can turn that fear into empowering surges of courage.
Some days I feel like I'm not good enough. A weird feeling, a familiar feeling. It's a feeling which surfaces from time to time.
Yet those around me see a greater potential in me. They nudge me. Entice me. But I remain. Unsure. Secretly anxious.
Regardless, the world keeps spinning. The days come where I am certain. Where my ideas match my reality. Blurs come into focus.
But your reality is your own perception of it. Where no judgement is just, simply because it's coming from your one and only point of view. How you feel about your relationships depends more on what you think the other person thinks/feels. Rather than what either of you actually thinks/feels.
Times will come where you will feel regret, thinking you've made a bad impression. You might be thinking to yourself, "Shoot, I should have done so and so, they probably think I'm not good enough." or "crap, why did I have to say that, they must think I'm an idiot"
Even if the other person thinks highly of you, negative thoughts may still creep in from your attic of insecurities.
The opposite is also true. Sometimes someone might think badly of you, yet egotistic thoughts boast through your mind. You think you are the bomb diggity, when, in reality, everyone abhors your presence.
When you're oblivious to the other persons' expressions, you miss out on reality from their point of view. You get caught up in your own traps of thought. You wind up, unwillingly, feeling overly pessimistic or overly optimistic.
Book: "The Alchemist"
By Paulo Coelho
Intriguing and inspirational. It shares a story of a shepherd boy who follows his personal legend. His story is a metaphor, a metaphor for why the author took so long to fulfill his own dream.
It is a book about pursuing and achieving your dreams. A great read for anyone at any age.
Here are the notable quotes I came upon whilst reading this book:
"The story of one person is the story of every one, and one man's quest is the quest of all of humanity."